Save One Life

Rest in Peace, First Lady

Laurie Kelley February 2, 2025

Suzanne Massie, who died a week ago at age 94, will always be our First Lady of hemophilia. Her passing is a significant, inevitable, yet still sorrowful. There’s hole in the world, in our community, where she once was. I fear though, that newer members of our community will not have heard of her, or the important impact she had. I want to ensure she is honored, as she should be. Besides Queen Victoria, who else could be our first lady, the first important mother of a child with hemophilia?

I first talked to Suzanne in May 1992, who was bursting with ideas for the two of us, including getting an official invitation to Russia for me. Hemophilia? Russia? How did all this come about?

It seemed predestined. On Christmas Day, 1986, my mother casually handed me a present she forgot to wrap: Peter the Great, by Pulitzer Prize winner Robert K. Massie. “His son has hemophilia; that’s why he writes about Russian history.” Massie had already published Nicolas and Alexandra, about the last Tsar of Russia whose son had hemophilia. I devoured the book, and Massie became my favorite author. Neither my mother nor I knew at the time I was newly pregnant; nine months later I delivered a beautiful baby—you guessed it, who had hemophilia. Even more weird, knowing it would be a long labor, I brought along my copy of Peter the Great to re-read, complete with yellow highlighter. The nurses teased me: What did I have, an exam the next day?

The next month, at our first clinic meeting, our nurse, Jocelyn, suggest I might like to read Journey, by Robert K. and Suzanne Massie. She asked if I knew Bob Massie, and I said yes, Peter the Great was my favorite book. And she said no, I meant the son, Bob. Of course I had never met him. It turned out he lived two miles from my house.

I then read Journey, which I believe is the first real book about hemophilia. It chronicled their life, and the birth of their son Bob who was born in 1958. I was in tears by page 11 and couldn’t read any further. Then unbelievably, Bob actually called me one frigid night in January 1988. He was the first person with him hemophilia I ever talked to in my life. He was so kind, so relaxed, and completely put my mind at ease. I was a new mom, with a lot of stress and debt, and a new baby with this obscure disorder. Bob, it would turn out, was just as amazing and kind as his mother.

Eventually I was able to meet his mother. I think I offered to use my database for my newsletter PEN to reach out to families with hemophilia to collect clothing and toys for Christmas for children in Saint Petersburg, Russia. Even I didn’t know the extent to which Suzanne Massie was so important. With the couple’s focus on Russian history, and Suzanne’s involvement in Russia, she actually became President Ronald Reagan’s adviser on Russia. You may have heard the phrase “Trust but verify.” This comes from a famous Russian phrase Doveryai, no proveryai. Suzanne offered the phrase to Reagan when dealing with Russians. Reagan like the phrase so much, it became a White House policy.

Our efforts worked: we received 800 lbs of clothing and toys for the kids in Saint Petersburg, All gifts from the US hemophilia community. I remember Suzanne visited me at the warehouse, where the boxes ended up, and turned and looked at me, still a young mom, and said “Look how much power you have.” I believe she felt proud of me. And Suzanne, who was 61 at the time, and I spent about four hours in that very cold U-Haul warehouse sorting and packaging up clothing and toys. I marveled at her drive, energy, and stamina. Yes, she became my hero.

Suzanne, surrounded by the St. Petersburg, Russia, children who received the gifts we collected

We spent more time together. In March 1993 I went to Suzanne’s house in Boston for our interview for my newsletter PEN. I recall how deeply she expressed love for the children. with hemophilia in Russia–who at that time had no access to factor.

In May 1993, I visited at her house again and we watched a 70-minute Russian documentary of her life. The Russians loved her. She had founded a nonprofit called the Firebird Foundation, which helped children with hemophilia in the Saint Petersburg area.

I also got to know Bob better, especially in September 1993, when we hosted him and his wife for dinner at our small home in Medford, as he discussed plans to run for Lt. Governor of Massachusetts. This family was amazing!

In 1997, I visited Russia for the first time, and in Saint Petersburg, I was able to meet Elyena, the nurse in whom Suzanne had entrusted the Firebird Foundation. Suzanne later asked me about the trip and asked, didn’t you feel like home when you arrived in Russia? Her love for that country was immeasurable.

Time went by, and with three children I was very busy. By then I had my business, and also had started Save One Life, a nonprofit dedicated to children with hemophilia in developing countries. We had a major fundraiser approaching in 2012, and it was my chance to dedicate the gala to Suzanne. We would honor her for her work for children in Russia and for being such an inspiration to all of us. I decided first to visit her in Maine where she lived now. It was a four and a half hour ride each way, in one day. But it was so well worth it. Suzanne was of course older, slowed down a bit, caring for her husband, but was in the process of writing a book about her years with Reagan. Of course she was!

Bob and his family, and also Bob’s sister Susanna, who I had met quite a few years before, and who has two sons with hemophilia, and all their children arrived for the gala held in Massachusetts. It was a wonderful event with a huge turnout. Suzanne is a great speaker, so knowledgeable, and yet connects with everybody. At the end of the event both she and her son Bob signed their books (Bob had a newly published book, A Song in the Night). And still, I felt that I could never do enough to praise this amazing woman who made such an impression on me, and gave me the confidence to continue my work, especially internationally. I could never fill her boots or take her place, but she was a constant inspiration in my life to help me fulfill my mission.

I read online that in 2021 she was awarded Russian citizenship. What a fitting tribute to such a dedicated woman. I will never forget her, and I have all her books in my library. I hope this generation of mothers can look to her for inspiration as well. Read her books; learn about her life. She’s living proof that one person can impact a global community.

Massie, Suzanne, Trust but Verify: Reagan, Russia and Me, Maine Authors Publishing, 2013: Paperback and Hardcover.
Massie, Suzanne, Land of the Firebird: The Beauty of Old Russia, Simon & Schuster 1980: Paperback; Touchstone 1982.
Massie, Suzanne, Pavlovsk: The Life of a Russian Palace, Little Brown & Co. 1990: Paperback; HeartTree Press 1999.
Massie, Suzanne, The Living Mirror, Doubleday & Co. Garden City New York 1972: Paperback: Anchor 1972.
Massie, Suzanne & Robert Massie, Journey, Alfred A. Knopf, New York 1975: Paperback: Warner’s 1976; Ballantine Books 1984.

Achieving Dreams in the Philippines

Laurie Kelley June 23, 2024

Two weeks ago we told the story of a mother in Madagascar with two boys with hemophilia, and the challenges she faces. This week we look at what happens with assistance, when those challenges are met head on with help from the national hemophilia organization with international help. Meet Reinniel and be inspired!

Breaking Barriers, Achieving Dreams

by France S. Alviz June 14, 2024

“My disability doesn’t define me, it refined me.”— Reinniel John Cruz

“He won’t be able to graduate because he has hemophilia. He can’t achieve anything with his condition.” These words can leave a lasting impact. Such phrases can deeply affect individuals, dimming their hopes and aspirations for a brighter future.

Fortunately, Reinniel John Cruz transformed these words into the motivation he needed to excel in his studies. However, this fierce determination and commitment did not come easily to Reinniel.

Living with severe Hemophilia A in the province of Nueva Ecija, Philippines, Reinniel recalled the numerous instances when he felt like giving up on his education due to the challenges posed by his bleeding disorder.

As the fourth child among ten siblings, Reinniel was brought up by his widowed mother alongside his two brothers also affected by hemophilia. However, the challenges increased when his diabetic mother experienced a mild stroke. Seeing his primary carer, whom he relied on heavily, suffering took a toll on him causing him to falter. He also faced another setback when he had to pause his studies during the pandemic, pushing him further into desolation and hopelessness.

When all things seem to have fallen apart, Reinniel reignited his hopes and dreams after a conversation with one of the people he looks up to – Kay Ferrer, HAP’s Vice President, who also has a son with a bleeding disorder.

Asked with a simple question, “Would you like to get back to school and continue your studies?” Reinniel grabbed the opportunity to prove that his ability is stronger than his disability.

Through the years of financial assistance from Save One Life and the scholarship granted by his Kay to cover his tuition fees, Reinniel finally completed his Bachelor’s Degree in Information Technology in June 2024.

In a heartfelt facebook post, he shared graduation pictures along with a message of gratitude to all who stood by him during his journey.

He gave special thanks to his siblings for their hard work to support his dream, to Roy Luis De Guzman, HAP NE’s chapter leader, for aiding him with the necessary medical care, and the rest of their chapter for the guidance and encouragement.

He also expressed deep appreciation for his mentor and companion throughout his hemophilia journey – Jeff Rodriguez, who inspired him and his siblings to strive and conquer challenges despite having a life-long condition like hemophilia. Reinniel extended his immense thanks to HAP President, his Andrea Trinidad, for going above and beyond in empowering him and the rest of the hemophilia community. He valued the guidance and learnings they’ve imparted, enabling him to become self-reliant.

To his fellow hemos, Reinniel leaves them with an encouragement: “Having a disability should not limit us from pursuing our dreams. The suffering we experience now due to hemophilia, let’s use that as motivation to excel in our studies and reach our goals. There are people who have it worse than us. If they can do it, so can we.”

Despite the hurtful words from people who only saw his limitations, Reinniel responded with hope and resilience, leveraging what he has– the support of a community that lifts and empowers one another so they can rise above life’s challenges.

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Doug Did It!

Laurie Kelley October 8, 2023

My boyfriend Doug is such a go-getter, such a team player, that I would always tell people, You want something done? Doug’ll do it. And I volunteered him for various tasks at Save One Life, which he cheerfully accepted and did. One year I even made magnets and lapel buttons for the Save One Life team that read “Doug’ll Do It!” as a joke.

It’s no joke now. Doug did it! He cycled 3,784 miles coast to coast—from Portland, Oregon to Portland, Maine, arriving Thursday, October 5 on a grey and windy day in Maine, to dip his wheel in the Atlantic Ocean. It was an incredible feat, for someone who is 66, and only took up riding nine years ago, when he first met me. Combined, his efforts and those of our community around the country who participated in the Wheels for the World campaign, raised over $230,000 to support the mission of Save One Life, the nonprofit I founded 21 years ago. It was our biggest fundraiser ever.

Doug is inspired by Save One Life’s mission, to give direct financial support and medicine to those with bleeding disorders in developing countries. Save One Life assists over 1,200 people who live in poverty, in India, Pakistan, Nepal, Kenya and ten other countries. It offers direct sponsorship, college scholarships, microenterprise grants, camp support and millions of dollars worth of blood-clotting medicine.

But Doug was also inspired by an incredible individual: the late Barry Haarde.

Barry was an avid cyclist with hemophilia who completed six—six!—long distance tours over six years to raise money for Save One Life. From coast to coast, with his final one dubbed “Call of the Wild” from Dawson Creek, British Columbia to Anchorage, Alaska. His tours totaled over 20,000 miles and raised over $230,000 for Save One Life!

What was remarkable about his achievement was that Barry had hemophilia, HIV and a contracted knee joint… health issues that would stop most people from considering this audacious ride. But Barry was not most people…he was driven by memories of the brother and brother-in-law he lost to hemophilia and HIV, and all the friends in the community lost to HIV. In addition, he knew firsthand the pain suffered by those in developing countries who often lack access to blood-clotting medicine.

Doug met Barry twice, and both learned that they loved cycling, both worked at Hewlett Packard, and both admired the work of Save One Life. Doug was in awe of Barry. Barry passed away in 2018, and no one since has dared to fill his cycling shoes. But Doug’ll do it! And he did. I’m so proud of Doug: the time he invested in training all year, the time spent away from me and home, his dedication and discipline, and his accomplishment.

Thanks to all who donated to this cause, thanks to our major sponsors, Sanofi and CVS, and for all the prayers. Through the Rockies, the cornfields, the highways and hills, he was safe and is now home. And Save One Life continues on, to help the needy.

Yesterday was a celebration of his accomplishment and a surprise announcement! We have a new volunteer for next year! James’ll do it! James is from Texas and was a friend of Barry’s. So the torch has been passed and we wish James much success in 2024!

Back in the Saddle Again

Laurie Kelley August 14, 2022

It was a beautiful, crisp summer day on the North Shore of Boston to get back in the saddle again—the bike saddle! Part 2 of Wheels for the World today showcased a thrilling mountain bike ride through Willowdale State Park in historic Ipswich, Massachusetts: historic for hemophilia, for it was here in the 1600s that the first family in the New World with hemophilia was discovered. The Appleton family farm, owned by Oliver Appleton, was just down the road from the entrance to the state park, where we would ride for two hours, through fields, dodging trees, skidding over gnarly roots, and bumping over rocks.

Well, some of us did. We had a small group of about 10 riders, including me and Doug. Also present were: Chris Bombardier, Save One Life’s executive director; AG, mom of a child with hemophilia; Justin, a person with hemophilia who came all the way from Florida to ride! Rich Vogel, long-time friend and community member, from New Jersey; and more! Our goal was to ride, have fun, honor Barry Haarde’s legacy, and raise money for Save One Life.

Oh, and complete a nine-mile route through some really exciting and wild woods! Problem for us was that I have not been on a bike in 18 months, and have not mountain-biked in about 5 years. Doug has only ever been once! I bought him a new bike for his birthday this past January, but turns out it was a hybrid and not a real mountain bike. He and I suffered through about 2 miles before bailing. And I had one crash when I couldn’t stay on the trail after bolting over some rocks and came crashing down a hillside. Luckily, no one was around to see that, only the bruises and scrapes told the story. Justin had a better story: he broke his bike, but kept on riding with no seat!

The group had a great time, and it was wonderful to be with our community members again. After the ride, we gathered at the True North Brewery, where we stayed for a few hours, swapping stories of raising a child with hemophilia, thoughts about new treatments, joint pains and back aches!

Hemophilia has brought together so many great people, all focused on a great cause: helping children with hemophilia in poverty in developing countries. Getting back in the saddle, even with a few mishaps, was worth it all.

There’s still time, until October 1, to participate in Wheels for the World! Go to the Save One Life website to learn more. Get back in the saddle!

We Ride to Remember

Laurie Kelley August 1, 2022

“They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old: Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn. At the going down of the sun and in the morning we will remember them.” — Laurence Binyon, British Poet

Wheels for the World in Providence, Rhode Island

They rode in the bright sunshine and heavy heat in Providence, Rhode Island, to remember a special person in the hemophilia community, Barry Haarde, and to raise funds and awareness for those with bleeding disorders in developing countries, who still suffer from untreated bleeding. It was Save One Life’s second annual Wheels for the World in conjunction with New England Hemophilia Association. About 25 riders gathered—one family from Pennsylvania!— to share the joy of riding, and gratitude for having treatment in the US to stop bleeding.

For me it was only my second hemophilia event in over two years to attend! I had just returned from Kilimanjaro, so decided to sit this one out and attend as a volunteer—though there was little to do! The team from NEHA and Save One Life had it all under control.

A special guest was Emily “Weez” Cobb, Barry’s sister, who attended with her husband Billy, to say some words about Barry, and what this ride meant to her. Barry, as most people in the community know, was a person with hemophilia A and HIV, who also had a permanently contracted knee. He created the idea to ride his bicycle across the US to raise awareness for those affected by hemophilia and lack of treatment in developing countries. He also did it to honor the fallen: those with hemophilia who were killed by HIV, from infected blood products and treatment in the late 1970s and early 1980s. Barry would eventually ride six times across the US over six years, raising more than $250,000 for Save One Life.

Sadly, he took his own life in February 2018, which stunned the country. He had overcome hemophilia, HIV and hepatitis C, but not mental health issues. He was beloved by the community, and Wheels for the World honors his character and commitment.

Weez reminded us all how much Barry wanted to show the younger generation what was possible, despite hemophilia and all its complications. She also said how important it is to remember those who are no longer with us. Wheels for the World keeps memories of Barry alive, and continues his cause, for which she and her family are grateful. Weez has known much loss: her two brothers and mother all died within a few years of one another; her 17-year-old daughter Patty died in a car crash; and her first husband died also of HIV, as he also had hemophilia.

Remember those who are gone “helps with the grieving process,” she said. And no matter how many years go by, people still grieve.

This year marks the 10^th Anniversary of Barry’s first ride: over 3,000 miles from coast to coast.

At the end of this ride, which was about 28 miles, Save One Life and NEHA provided food and drink at the Narragansett Pub, where we had some surprise news for everyone, especially the Cobb family: my boyfriend, Doug Mildram, has volunteered to re-create Barry’s first ride, from Portland, Oregon to Portland, Maine, in 2023. Seven weeks of riding, at 100 miles per day. Not many people could accept this challenge, but Doug has been training all his life. Doug had met Barry, and they discovered they both worked at Hewlett Packard, and both love cycling. Barry inspired Doug, as he inspired me, and inspired everyone he met.

We hope our community will welcome Doug along the route from coast to coast with open arms as they did Barry, who we will honor with this ride, and to continue to raise funds for families in poverty overseas.

Thank you NEHA and Save One Life for an outstanding event! Thanks to Weez and Billy for flying up to join us—see you next year, when Doug comes riding into Portland, Maine, to celebrate another Wheels for the World, and to remember our beloved Barry.